Why spoiling your dog might be good for your mental health
Did you know that 10th August is Spoil Your Dog Day? As a psychotherapist (and proud owner of two crazy energetic spaniels), I love the idea of dedicating a day to celebrating the joy that dogs bring into our lives. But here's something you might not expect: taking time to "spoil" your dog isn't just good for them, it's good for you, too.
As someone who spends their days supporting people through life's ups and downs, I can honestly say my dogs give me just as much therapy as I give them. Their boundless energy, constant companionship and (slightly too enthusiastic!) affection help me stay grounded. And they remind me, over and over again, of the small things that truly matter.
Dogs and the power of connection
One of the greatest gifts dogs offer us is unconditional love. No matter how busy or challenging my day has been, my spaniels are always thrilled to see me. They don't care about my to-do list or whether I said the right thing in a difficult session - they care that I'm there. That level of acceptance is rare and deeply reassuring.
It's not just me saying this. Research shows that caring for a pet can help lower stress levels, reduce anxiety and boost mood. Stroking a dog can release oxytocin (sometimes called the "bonding hormone") and lower cortisol, the stress hormone. That's why simply sitting with your dog, even for a few minutes, can be so calming.
The motivation to keep going
As well as emotional support, my dogs play a huge role in keeping me physically healthy. They are very good at making sure I get up and get outside, even on days when I might be tempted to hit the snooze button.
Most mornings, even before the day officially starts, there they are, tails wagging, waiting for me to take them running with me. I'll admit there are times I'd love a lie-in but I never regret those early runs. The fresh air, movement and quiet time before work sets me up for the day ahead. And it's mainly thanks to them.
What more could I ask for? Well...perhaps slightly calmer, more cuddly dogs! But their boundless energy is part of who they are, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
What does "spoiling" really mean?
When we hear the word "spoiling," it's easy to think of treats and toys. And while there's nothing wrong with a new ball or a tasty chew, the best way to spoil your dog is to give them your time and presence.
Here are a few simple ideas to celebrate Spoil Your Dog Day:
Take them on a new walking route and let them sniff and explore.
Schedule a longer play session or cuddle on the sofa (if they'll stay still!).
Try a new activity together, like a dog-friendly cafe, a woodland run or a training game.
Slow down and enjoy their company, even if it's just for 10 minutes.
Dogs live in the present moment. When you take the time to connect with them, they remind you to do the same.
A lesson for ourselves
One of the biggest lessons my spaniels teach me is that connection and care matter. Just as they thrive when they're nurtured, so do we. Yet many of us struggle to give ourselves the same kindness we so easily offer to others - including our pets.
This Spoil Your Dog Day, why not use the opportunity to consider how you might "spoil" yourself a little, too? That might mean taking a proper lunch break, scheduling a walk in nature, or even reaching out for support if life feels heavy.
As a psychotherapist working in Guildford and Horsley, Surrey, I often support people who find it hard to prioritise themselves. Therapy can be a safe space to learn how to care for your own emotional wellbeing as much as you do for those around you.
In the end...
My dogs have given me more than I can ever return. They remind me to laugh, move my body, and appreciate the small joys in life (like a sunny patch of grass or a really good stick). They push me out of the door on mornings I'd rather stay under the duvet and offer comfort on difficult days.
So yes, I'll be spoiling them this Spoil Your Dog Day. Because the truth is, in so many ways, they spoil me right back.
If you'd like to explore ways to nurture your own wellbeing, I offer psychotherapy sessions in Guildford and Horsley, Surrey. You can get in touch: www.dragonflypsychotherapy.co.uk