We often hear that growth happens outside of our comfort zone - but what does that really mean, especially when you're living with anxiety or depression?
For many of my clients here in Surrey, even small steps - like trying something new, setting boundaries, or simply saying "no" - can feel daunting. When you're navigating low mood or anxiety, the familiar (even if it's not serving you well) can feel safer than the unknown. And it's not just a sense of safety - low confidence and low energy levels can be paralysing when you are struggling.
But here's the truth: discomfort doesn't always mean danger. Sometimes, it's the gateway to growth.
Why it's so hard
Anxiety tells us to stay safe. Depression often robs us of motivation. Together, they can convince us that "doing nothing" is the only manageable option. But staying stuck often deepens the cycle - of avoidance, low self-esteem, and hopelessness.
The reward of taking the leap
Stepping outside your comfort zone doesn't need to mean grand gestures. For someone struggling with depression, going for a morning walk can be a courageous act. For someone with social anxiety, initiating a conversation or joining a group can feel like climbing Everest.
Yet these small acts often bring surprising rewards:
A sense of capability
A boost in self-confidence
A flicker of joy or connection
Proof that you can do hard things
Therapy as a safe launchpad
Therapy can be the place where you explore the edges of your comfort zone with support. You don't need to leap alone. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, depression, or simply feeling stuck, our work together can help you take meaningful steps - at your own pace.
It's not about pushing yourself recklessly. It's about gently expanding your world, building resilience, and reconnecting with what matters most.
It's important though in the therapy room to remember how difficult things may be for a client and to recognise when is the right time to start thinking about exploring things to help set a client up for success.
Ready to take a step?
If you're feeling anxious, low, or uncertain but know you're ready for something different, I'm here. Based in Surrey, I offer a warm, non-judgemental space to explore what growth could look like for you.
You're welcome to reach out for a no-pressure initial conversation.
And to those who know me, yes this photo is here for a reason - I allowed myself to be pushed way beyond my comfort zone this summer and try parasailing!